In this growing era of the constant hustle and bustle, one must feel grateful if they have even a few hours to spend with their partner. However, the critical part is that when you have time, make sure to make the most of it. Talk, enjoy, go out for a movie or stay at home to Netflix and Chill.
list a few psychologist recommended tips to make sure you and your partner go to bed happy.
1. Forget About Work
When in bed, stop checking up on what your colleagues are up to or what
work is due for the next day. Instead, spend some quality time with your
partner and rejuvenate yourself to be more productive for the next day.
Anything that worries either you or your partner is not worth
discussing; be it financial troubles or workplace issues.
2. Unplug Your Electronics And Phones
A lot of light exposure at night time can lead to sleep deprivation, and
it even suppresses the release of the sleep hormone, melatonin (1).
While your brain is preparing for rest, it is not a good idea to load up
on more of your social media. If continued as a habit, there’s no good
it would do to both you and your partner. So, ditch the phone, and talk
your heart out instead.
3. No Arguing Before Bed
Now, this one’s a no-brainer. While some little friendly arguments are
common in most relationships, heated discussions are never good.
Fighting in bed will never help you solve a problem, so maybe, you might
do well keeping it for later. Not only will it make it harder for you
to fall asleep, but it might also make you feel depressed the following
day.
4. Give Each Other A Massage
Okay, so let me put it out there, massages are epic. Committed
relationships are just an excuse to get a relaxing massage for free at
any time. Massages have been known to relieve pain, decrease anxiety,
and reduce depression levels (2). Well, if that isn’t enough for you to
get one right away, I don’t know what is. Make sure you indulge in good
massage therapy before bed to get an ample dose of intimacy.
5. Good Night Kisses Are A Must
Any kind of touch before sleeping be it kissing or hugging, should be a
must for couples. This is a relaxing habit that evokes positive
emotions. Few minutes of cuddling go a long way for any couple
concerning increase in intimacy. It is ideal if you do your best to make
your partner feel like a million dollars before bed. This way you both
might be ready to start the next day on a good note.
6. Make Your Bedroom A Child-Free Space
While letting your kids sleep with you in case of a nightmare is
comforting, the same cannot be said about sharing your sleeping space
with them every day. It might sound harsh, but essential nevertheless.
Try to keep children out of your bedroom as much as possible, to keep
your intimacy alive.
7. Ensure That Bed Time Is Mutual
Most couples are unable to see each other for an entire day and have the
habit of sleeping at different times. However, a study says that
couples who have similar sleeping patterns are able to get a sound sleep
and are more likely to have an intimate relationship (2). In addition
to this, making your clocks align might encourage a strong bond between
the two of you.
So, do you agree with this? Do these qualify as the keys to a long and
healthy relationship according to you? If you have anything that you
would like to add to this, we would love to hear from you. Comment below
and share this piece with your loved ones.