There are many signs that can help you understand whether you are making love, and are in a deep relationship, or simply having sex. You don’t necessarily have to start a physical relationship only after you’ve fallen in love with someone. There are times when you start with a simple physical relationship that gradually turns into love.
More often than not, we are first attracted to someone based on what they look like. While physical intimacy is necessary for anyone, but we cannot too ignore the emotional parts.
And when you meet each other both physically and mentally – not just bodily, it is the greatest connection of all.
Here Are 10 Signs That Say If You Are Making Love Or Just Having Sex
1. You will be inspired.
Love is the greatest inspiration most of us can hope to find and when you’re in love, you’ll feel the urge to find as many ways as you can to express all the emotions you have inside you.
It is this passion that pushes you to create using words what you can’t with your actions. You’re most likely to think like Elizabeth Barrett Browning.
Lust is more likely to make you think like Taylor Swift as you move from one person to another. You are more likely to get hurt and feel the need to move on as quickly as possible.
2. There is no need to put on a show.
If you’re making love with someone, it can be blissful but also comfortable as you don’t have to prove anything to each other. You understand each other’s needs and do everything you can to ensure that your partner is satisfied.
If it’s just about being physical, you’ll often feel pressured to ensure that your partner is having fun and you lose focus on your own.
3. It feels like your souls are touched.
After you’ve made love, you feel a deep sense of contentment even if you didn’t reach your peak, because you feel like you’ve achieved something deeper than mere physical pleasure. It’s like you’ve bared your souls to each other and found complete acceptance.
When you’re just in it to satiate your needs, not reaching completion is the worse feeling ever because that is literally the only reason you agreed to this in the first place. It’s as bad as going to a Thanksgiving dinner expecting a fantastic turkey only to end up eating canned vegetables.
4. Intensely emotional.
Sometimes making love can bring you to tears because of the sheer intensity of what you’re feeling because you are overwhelmed with emotions.
When it’s just about being physical you might be tearing up because that is the last time you ever want to see or speak to the person you’re with.
5. You know each other inside out.
When you’re with someone just for physical sake, there are a hundred different things to worry about. You will probably spend more time just worrying if you’ll slip up and get pregnant than feeling the intimacy.
But when you’re making love to someone, there are no worries. Both of you know that you’re in this together and in the long run. You are aware of each other’s fears and will do anything to assuage them. The morning after is never awkward because you even know what they’d like to have for breakfast.
6. Snuggling.
Once you’re done making love, you just feel like lying there in each other’s arms, simply enjoying the time that you two have together. You feel happy and complete.
When you’ve been there just for making out, you’ll not really feel inclined to cuddle and be cute with them. You’re more likely to be trying to remember whether they’ve told you their name.
7. It’s just another tick on your list.
Making out with someone for the sake of it usually just feels like you’ve made another conquest. You wanted to be physical and you went out and got it and now it’s time to move on and focus on some other goal or some other person.
But when you’re making love to someone, you are happy. You lay out a future for yourselves together because you don’t feel like ever-ending what you have. You’re ready to go for a more serious commitment like marriage and a family.
8. Sometimes it can get nasty in a naughty way.
You’re more likely to explore the nonromantic, casual side of it if you’re just in it for the pleasure. Most of the time you don’t even have to worry about seeing that person again in your life and if you’re really desperate you can do it just about anywhere.
When it’s making love, you put more thought into what you’re doing. Even if its a quick, hurried act you add something to make it memorable. It is mostly an experience which brings positive vibes whenever you recall it.
9. It’s always a unique experience.
If you break up with the person you were making love to, you’ll never feel like you have to compare and contrast between them and the next person you enter a relationship with. You recognize that what you had was special and intimate.
But if you were just in it for the physical part and now you’ve moved on to a different partner, you actively contrast the two experiences.
10. It’s a different kind of education.
As mentioned earlier, when you are in a relationship held together by pure bodily desires, there is more pressure on you to please your partner. And so, you will be more willing to explore new ideas and come up with creative ways to please them.
But when you’re in love, there is no such pressure. You don’t need to indulge in any complicated gymnastics with your partner to find what you’re looking for.
Even if you keep it simple, the sheer attraction between the two of you will ensure that it is amazing.