“When you have confidence, that’s what becomes attractive to other
people and makes them want to work with you and spend time with you.” –
Emmanuelle Chriqui
Being attractive is more than just about looks – after all, those are subjective, and subject to change at the whim of the latest trends of society. Attraction also greatly depends on how you act, and the types of behaviors you exhibit day to day when interacting with people. Someone can just as easily fall madly in love with your personality as they do the way you look.
After all, you are a whole person, made up of traits and flaws that
round you out to be a human being. There are a number of behaviors that
are attractive in a person, whether you are a man or a woman. Learning
how to harness these types of behaviors can make you both more
attractive, as well as an all-around more positive and happier person.
6 OF THE MOST ATTRACTIVE BEHAVIORS AND HOW TO HAVE THEM
1. GOOD LISTENERS
People love to feel heard and understood. Being a good listener is one
of the most attractive qualities a person can have, because it ensures
you will be able to make connections with people. When you can listen to
what other people are saying and not just wait for your turn in the
conversation, you will be able to create meaningful moments between you
and another person.
Being a good and active listener means that you are taking in what the
other person is saying, making them feel heard and understood. It’s an
attractive quality, and it forms strong bonds and connections.
2. KINDNESS
This seems like a no-brainer, but being kind is another highly
attractive quality that a person can have. When you exhibit kindness,
people will feel drawn towards you, because you will radiate the kind of
positivity that makes people feel loved and appreciated.
People are more attracted to those who engage in behaviors that are
selfless, thoughtful and kind, rather than those who are mean-spirited
and cruel. You will be surprised to find that when you engage in more
behaviors that are altruistic, you will feel more positive, which will
make people gravitate into your orbit.
3. SMILING
This one is easy, and it’s proven to make you feel better even when you
are having a rough day! Smiling is one of the most basic and easiest
things that a person can do to make themselves more attractive to people
around them.
Smiling releases endorphins, which will heighten your mood, which will
make you more positive, which will cause you to smile more – it’s an
endless cycle! When people see you smile, they will also feel a sense of
positivity, and they will associate you with those happy feelings.
4. LAUGHTER
Hand-in-hand with smiling, laughter will also help draw people in and
make you more attractive to them. Laughter is another act that releases
endorphins just by doing it, and it’s also healthy for both your
emotional and physical health!
It will lower your stress levels, and with low stress levels you will
have better moods. And, people are drawn to those who laugh, and who
make them laugh in turn! It feels good to laugh, which means people will
automatically find themselves drawn to those who make them feel good.
5. CONFIDENCE
As they say, confidence is key! Being confident will make you both
attractive to others, while also making you feel better about yourself.
Being confident in yourself, your looks, your abilities and your work
will draw people in. If you project an air of self-shame or
self-loathing, you are likely to put people off of interacting with you.
On the other hand, when you own yourself, you will be more likely to
make others feel good and confident about themselves as well. People who
exhibit and radiant confidence are much more alluring to the people
around them.
6. UNDERSTANDING NONVERBAL CUES
Being a good listener is important – but what about the things that
people aren’t saying? Being able to read someone’s body language will
help you be a better listener, as well as show that you are capable of
understanding how they are feeling even without them having to tell you.
Empathy is an attractive quality, and empathy is all about nonverbal
cues. When you are able to read someone’s nonverbal cues, you can give
them what they need without them having to ask, which will bring about
interactions that are healthy, positive and long-lasting.
As you can see, beauty may be in the eye of the beholder, but behavior
can be universally attractive. Taking the time to study your own habits
and choices, and change them to more attractive behaviors, can do
wonders for all of the social interactions you have in your life. You
will not only attract people to you in a romantic sense, but also
platonic, life-long friendships as well. You will also find that your
attitude towards life can change to a much more upbeat and positive one
once you start engaging in behaviors that are designed to make you a
more empathetic.